5 Quick Questions, vol. 1

I have a friend who has 30 best friends because, as she says, “They’re all best at something different.”

I think she’s onto something.

I’ve been collecting best friends for quite some time now. Some of my friends have to put up with me in person. Anxious me. Confident me. Tongue-tied me. Eloquent me. Weepy me. Stoic me. It’s not always awesome, but they do it because Living Love has little to do with the worthiness of the recipient and everything to do with the generosity of the giver.

Some friends — many of you — do the same thing, living love into this space and my heart, even though we’ve never met in person. Whatever. It’s the 21st century. We can have best friends from all over, even if face-to-face hasn’t happened yet. Thank you, all of you, for enduring, even championing, the whiplash of Both/And Beth.

The trouble is, I often feel like those of you who come here to the blog know me better than I know you, though I recognize many of your names and stories and hearts. Part of it’s just the nature of this forum, and I understand that there are limits. But I don’t like them. They feel… I don’t know… needlessly lopsided. And I’ve decided in many parts of life that doing something is better than doing nothing, even if I can’t do it all. I’ve decided here, in this space, that means pushing into some of the get-to-know-you limits.

So, from time to time, I’m going to ask you a few questions. 5 Quick Questions!

They may be light. They may be deep. But they’re all geared at getting to know you a little bit better. Over time, a lot better. Obviously, answering is up to you. But I hope this gives you a chance to meet each other, too, because this community is AMAZING and encouraging and the world is a better place for having you in it.

Last week I sent my newest BFF, Jacoba of A Yankee Mom in Texas, five questions. Her answers inspired this post, so I’ve copied the same questions here for our first session of 5 Quick Questions. I’m doing this despite the fact that Jacoba called dibs on the Be- Fri- part of the Best Friends necklace and is sticking me with -st -ends. That’s just the kind of Live Love friend I am, folks. The giving kind.

5 Quick Questions

  1. Greek yogurt. Yes or no?
  2. What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read?
  3. Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain.
  4. How do you feel about Texas hair? Yeah, yeah. I know it’s a stereotype, and I’m sorry for perpetuating it, but I can do seriously BIG Texas hair and my skills are totally unappreciated in crunchy Oregon. I need to know whether our friendship is open to full hair expression.
  5. Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was __________________________.

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P.S. This happened on Facebook yesterday.

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If you want to see the whole story, which includes Jesus tripping me with underwear, click here.

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P.P.S. The Greek yogurt? I need to know.

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ABOUT BETH WOOLSEY I'm a writer. And a mess. And mouthy, brave, and strong. I believe we all belong to each other. I believe in the long way 'round. And I believe, always, in grace in the grime and wonder in the wild of a life lived off course from what was, once, a perfectly good plan.
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  1. 1.Greek yogurt. Yes or no?
    yes yes yes – preferably in Greece…with honey…and a honey…ahhh the memories…

    2.What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read?
    Anything (uh everything) by Jackie Collins

    3.Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain.
    Busiest time of day, Washington is awake and emailing and calling me frantically and I’ve got 1 hour and 45 minutes before I need to pick up my kids from school.

    4.How do you feel about Texas hair?
    Could we just call it big hair? I came of age in the 80s and I have a sum total of 7 hairs. I worked hard to make them big, but my hair doesn’t get much bigger than not tiny. I still have a soft spot in my heart for big hair. My cousin who has naturally curly hair came in out of the misty rain one day with a halo of hair, and I said “wow! Your hair looks sooooo pretty.” She shot me the look of death. People with big hair don’t always appreciate it!

    5.Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was
    6 teenage boys shooting a zombie movie in my house filled up the bathtub and did a water scene. Nuff said.

  2. 1. Greek yogurt – No, I don’t like the texture.
    2. Embarassing book – I can’t remember reading recently, unfortunately.
    3. Tuesday, 3 pm – In the NICU, finishing feeding baby number one, getting ready to feed baby number two
    4. Texas hair – I have the flattest hair ever, so it’s hard to say, but it’s entertaining to look at.
    5. Something wet that’s not mine – Right now, in the middle of the night, pumping breastmilk for my premature babies hopefully coming home soon so I don’t have to keep doing this forever (it’s been 2 months!)– wait, though, that technically is something wet that actually is mine. Well, yesterday, one of them peed on me while I was changing him.

    1. Sending you love, Heather! I had premature twins, too. Pumped round the clock while waiting for them to come home. I don’t even know how to describe that wait or the loss and the love involved. So know that my heart is with you. x’s and o’s, mama.

      1. Thanks for the words of support! After 12 weeks of bedrest, an in utereo surgery on my placenta, and 9 1/2 weeks in the NICU, both my babies are home and doing well! Still mostly pumping around the clock, as they aren’t quite strong enough to nurse exclusively, but we’re getting closer. Nice to know I’m not the only one who’s been here! Thanks for giving me some encouragement and entertainment in the middle of the night!

        1. CONGRATS on bringing babies home! Yep – been there on transitioning to breast and pumping around the clock to meet demand. We can do hard things… we know because we do them every day. Love to you.

  3. Alas, typing one handed anyway. Only time to get on here today is via my phone, please excuse whacky auto-corrects.

    1. Occasionally, like when pregnant. Never really liked yogurt/or think of buying it to eat unless I’m pregnant and I’m trying to figure out something healthy i can eat and still stick to my diet.

    2. At the time, i was a little embarrassed to be reading “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, but only Because I’d been married several years by then…. I was hoping to be able to encourage my younger sisters…would have been a good book for me to read while in high school.

    3. Am? Probably getting a little girl out of bed for a “snack”…. Pm? Really wanting a nap before the kids in school get home on the bus, yet wrestling mentally over all the other stuff that still should be done.

    4. I wish, no skill and no patience with hair personally. Have given some consideration to shaving it of and wearing wigs.

    5. Constantly… Baby’s diapers, baby’s medicine, middle kids spilled beverages…..

  4. 1. Yes, I make my own 😉
    2. Dracula
    3. Um, well today is Tues and 3pm today the 3yo had just woken and I was feeding her and reading the 5yo stories. But there’s no set pattern for Tuesday’s afternoon.
    4. I’m from Oz. I don’t even know what Texas hair is. But the answer is no, if you ask about a mullet 😉
    5. I don’t remember. The subconscious blanks it out wherever possible. Oh wait. It was Miss 3’s water at dinner 10 minutes ago. There, that wasn’t so bad.

  5. 1. Greek Yogurt. Yes or no? – Dunno, never really tried it. It’s kind of expensive though, and since my fridge is where regular yogurt goes to die, I dont think I’ll be trying Greek yogurt any time soon.
    2. What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read? – All of the Twilight series. I try to justify it with the fact that I read the series way before all this “Twihard” nonsense began.
    3.Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain. – Hopefully I’m smack dab in the middle of giving a massage to some person who thinks I’m the best LMT ever and thinks I deserve a tip. Just a buck will do…
    4.How do you feel about Texas hair? Yeah, yeah. I know it’s a stereotype, and I’m sorry for perpetuating it, but I can do seriously BIG Texas hair and my skills are totally unappreciated in crunchy Oregon. I need to know whether our friendship is open to full hair expression. – Since I can only do a ponytail and sometimes my little princess gets lucky and gets pigtails, I can take or leave BIG Texas hair.
    5.Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was – earlier this week. Dog decided she didnt like the carrots she swallowed whole so much after all.

  6. 1. If I’m in the mood. I think Greek yogurt has a bit of a tang to it.

    2. Twilight. Yes I did read them all. At a ridiculous speed too.

    3. 3:00 pm I’m just waking up and about to go pick up my son from daycare. I work 3rd shift (11pm -7am) so I’m much more active at 3 am. Lol

    4. I’m from the South y’all! I don’t have big hair, but I sure can appreciate it!

    5. I have an 11 month old boy and two huge dogs. So constantly cleaning up wet stuff that’s not mine.

  7. Definite yes to Greek yogurt, although I will admit that the yogurt I make is yummier. I am one of those people that like plain yogurt, but I will add some homemade jam to it for a new flavour.
    When I was young and foolish I read harlequin. Mostly I was embarrassed about the pictures on the front (so stupid, and sometimes they did not even match the book!)
    Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. This Tuesday I will be studying Leviticus (and who not to have sex with, and when). I am getting my degree in biblical studies, and so the on line course I am taking is on Tuesdays.
    How do you feel about Texas hair? Never met a Texan (that I know of) so I am sure that there hair is lovely. I personally do not like my hair to be big – I feel like a poof ball that should be used to clean the chipped nail polish off my fingers.
    The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was today. I help run a non-profit coffee house and many of us (myself included) spill coffee once in a while. Last week I managed to spill coffee on me – in three areas, the counter, the shelves, the floor, and the volunteer next to me!

    Also, even though we may know some of these answers. I am shocked and horrified that you do not understand the etiquette of answering the questions first. So tell us the scoop. What are your answers?

  8. Not sure if I’ve commented here before, but hi! I’m not a mom or wife, but I may as well be a mom. I work in a day care and have for years. When I’m not working in a day care I was going to college for elementary and special education, baby-sitting, working the church nursery, volunteering with the church kids stuff, and working at summer camp. So, yeah, I get it (as much as one can without actually being a mom. I understand some things can’t be understood until actual motherhood is achieved).

    Now for the questions.
    Greek yogurt- just tried it recently for the first time. It was yummy!

    Embarrasing books- I read romance novels and depending on the novel or who I’m talking to it can get a bit embarrasing (the church youth pastor who also happens to be my boss at the day care…)!

    Tuesday at 3- chillin’ with up to 7 toddlers. and perhaps cleaning up their snack or diapers or getting some cuddles/tackled by 7 kids who all want me to read and to sit in my lap

    big hair- go for it if you want to! I’ve been working to tame my frizzies because my hair does big all on its own and I want to figure out how to make it smaller

    Last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was either in a diaper, formula, or breast milk for one of the babies today at work.

    1. Hooray! Welcome to commenting, Kim. Actually, it sounds like you’re totally accurate about motherhood… some people just get it. 🙂 You’re one.

  9. Greek yogurt. Yes or no?
    NO. This is because I believe in full fat everything and Greek yogurt always seems to be no fat. I appreciate that it still tastes rich and creamy but I think we benefit from the actual fat in full fat yogurt.

    What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read?
    Hmmm…I’m a voracious reader and am not ashamed of any of it.

    Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain.
    Rushing out of the house to pick up my kids. I love 3:00. If I’ve had a bad day where I accomplished little, I feel like I get another chance to feel worthwhile at 3:00.

    How do you feel about Texas hair? Yeah, yeah. I know it’s a stereotype, and I’m sorry for perpetuating it, but I can do seriously BIG Texas hair and my skills are totally unappreciated in crunchy Oregon. I need to know whether our friendship is open to full hair expression.
    There was a time in the 80s I went for big hair, now not so much. But I’d never judge your hair.

    Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was last weekend in the public restroom at Costco; I cleaned pee off the seat…with my butt. I really hate that.

    1. Can I just say Amen! to full fat yogurt? So hard to find recently. My 11 month old started eating yogurt and even the pediatrician agreed in full fat, but all stores sell is low/no fat. Ugh! Ok, rant over 🙂

  10. What a fun idea!

    1.Greek yogurt. Yes or no? I am a bit ashamed to admit this, but I have never tried it. I have bought it and used it in smoothies for the kids. This is because I try (half-heartedly) to eat healthy, but force my kids to.

    2.What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read? Um, most of what I read is pretty unimpressive. I’m not too proud of any of it, but also not too embarassed either.

    3.Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain. Hmm… The quads don’t have preschool on Tues, so we’ve been hanging out all morning. My oldest gets home at 4:00, so this is usually me trying to sneak in a bit of quiet time. This sometimes means sitting the kids in front of PBS in the family room and going to my bedroom to fold laundry and try to watch an adult tv show.

    4.How do you feel about Texas hair? Well, my hair is crazy fine and doesn’t do big too well. In middle school, I did have fabulous poofy bangs. My oldest sister was more of a child of the 80’s than I and she rocked some seriously big hair. Big hair always makes me think of her 🙂

    5.Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was __________________________. It is winter. I have 5 kids. The mucus is out of control!

  11. 1. I have had an interesting relationship with yogurt in general. I have found that if I don’t take my time eating it and rush myself, it makes my gag to the point of almost puking. Which is more than you wanted to know, but it is something new for you 🙂 I have only tried Greek Yogurt once and I thought it was pretty good. It was the vanilla and honey flavor as suggested by someone from my Weight Watchers meeting.

    2. I must say that I haven’t fully read this book, but I do own it and I am at least a little embarrassed about that. It is the unofficial biography of Justin Timberlake.

    3. Is this your time with Maury? My Tuesdays at 3 are spent teaching either 6 Pre-Calculus students or 1 Calculus student depending on the rotation. Either way its a good time 😉

    4. I LOVE big Texas hair. I could stare at it all day wondering how in the world they got it to be that big and how much they spend in hair spray every year and if that really does create a larger hole in the ozone and if they would need a helmet while riding a motorcycle or if the hair is big enough and hard enough to prevent brain damage and if this run on sentence can get any longer.

    5. The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was this weekend when my boyfriend brought his 2 dogs with him to visit me. One urinated on my carpet while the other puked in my kitchen. All while sleeping beauty was in bed.

  12. Greek yogurt. Yes or no? –Nope, I like Yoplait Ligh
    What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read? –Currently reading American Sniper by Chris Kyle
    Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain. –Meetings, grading papers or lesson planning for my third grade classroom
    How do you feel about Texas hair? Yeah, yeah. I know it’s a stereotype, and I’m sorry for perpetuating it, but I can do seriously BIG Texas hair and my skills are totally unappreciated in crunchy Oregon. I need to know whether our friendship is open to full hair expression. — Hey, if you’ve got it, flaunt it! Who am I to judge, just please, if you choose to wear it, then ”wear it big, wear it proud!”
    Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was—luckily, a long time ago!

  13. 1. Yogurt in general is a problem for me (my mom got a yogurt maker when she was pregnant with my younger brother… green bean yogurt anyone??), but I have learned to sneak it into my diet (smoothies, mashed potatoes, et al)
    2. I read everything… well almost… and with teens, I read lots of interesting stuff. My dad said I would like Game of Thrones (because I love the medieval period) and I read all of them, but I still don’t know if I like them and would never let my kids read them.
    3. Tuesdays at 3 my teen daughter is feeding snack to the 2 year old we watch (child development class for my fellow homeschoolers 🙂 )
    4. I am from Texas and could do some major BIG hair (also a teen in the 80s). Now I try to tame it, but my curls have a mind of their own, so big hair isn’t just an option, but a way of life.
    5. Wow…. I have kids, a dog, borrowed kids, and I teach a preschool class…. everything is wet and rarely mine (although i have my moments)

  14. 1. Sure, but not too often.

    2. I read “The Vow” because someone recommended it to me. Instead I ordered the wrong one from the library and ended up with a rather racy novel about 4 women chasing men. And getting them.

    3. Nothing special going on usually. Waiting for my hubby to get home b/c if he gets home early enough I can take a walk. Usually a little tired of my 4 year old and ready for a break and feeling guilty for feeling that way as I know they grow up so fast. Usually hoping the baby takes a decent nap (which may or may not be @ 3 pm.

    4. If you want to bother with it, ok. I don’t judge. And I like to talk about people’s hair.

    5. Hmm, just picked up a wet towel and swim suit. And that’s a tame one.

  15. Hi Beth,

    I haven’t been commenting much, but I love your blog. I catch up with it in bursts and one night I had four entries saved to read to my husband when he came home! So, in the interest of stories not being a one-way street….

    1. Love greek yoghurt. Only eat greek or plain yoghurt (every day for brekky) and it must be full-fat. I don’t believe in low-fat versions of anything – I’d rather eat less and eat really tasty stuff!

    2. Hmm…I generally refuse to be embarassed by any books/films/musicals that I like! I know plenty of friends think that I should be embarrassed to love the Twilight series.

    3. Today is Tuesday and at 3’o’clock my 22month old toddler should be waking up and we’ll be heading to a friend’s for afternoon tea. How delightful! Most Tuesdays however, I am praying that one of my mothers’ group friends and her son will be available for a playdate and am always a little sad if they aren’t.

    4. You’ve lost me here. I’m in Australia so have no idea about texas hair! Your hair always looks gorgeous in the photos though. I’m good with big hair if you’re good with colourful hair (hot pink, cobalt blue, turquoise, purple etc) 😉

    5. The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was about an hour ago!

  16. 1. Greek Yogurt- Heck no! Can barely choke down regular yogurt.
    2. Prince of Tides- Though I’m not sure I understand why I’m embarrassed by it- maybe because the movie was so lousy.
    3. Today at 3:00- grieving the breakup of my best friend and the death of my grandpa. On a normal Tuesday at three o’clock- if I’m working, watching Little House on the Prairie episodes or napping while my charge is napping. If I’m at home, cleaning, reading, or napping.
    4. I LOVE Texas Big! Though I’m not sure it looks good on me! People like you can totally pull it off though Beth.
    5. The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was my charge Molly’s vomit last week. Fun times being a nanny!
    5.

    1. Prince of Tides…watched the movie first. The book was better. No shame there.

  17. Just kidding. I missed it. While you were writing it, I must have been telling this kid, “Do NOT stand in front if me and whine. Lie down, watch tv, whatever. I’m sorry that you’re sick but I CAN NOT let you stand in front if me and whimper.”

  18. Beth, are you gonna answer these for us too??

  19. 1. Yes. Love it!
    2. Cheesy Christian Romance Novels. And *sigh* Twilight. Explain? I’m an English teacher. I don’t count those things as true literature. But they’re super fun to breeze through like a giddy schoolgirl.
    3. Trying to get the 3 littles out te door to pick up the two biguns.
    4. I was born in Texas, but can’t get even normal body in my hair. It’s sad.
    5. Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was vomit. Today. Before that? Vomit. Yesterday. 4/5 kids have had this bug now. Wanna take bets on how I’ll fill this in tomorrow?

  20. 1. As long as it doesn’t have cornstarch in it.
    2. I love a lot of young adult books. Currently on my sixth (?) re-read of The Blue Sword.
    3. Most weeks, that’s down-time. This week, insanity. My son has an appt at 2:30, I have one at 4.
    4. I don’t know what Texas hair is, so you’re pretty safe there.
    5. I have a toddler. Who is not potty-trained.

    1. I adore Robin McKinley books, too.

  21. 1. Greek yogurt – meh. I tried it once at the Ikea cafeteria and I couldn’t get behind the super thick texture – it. just. didn’t. want. to. go. down.
    2. I don’t embarrass about books, but I’m impatient with them, so that may be why. If it isn’t good by the end of chapter one, I’m moving right along to the next one.
    3. Usually indoor activities with toddler, anticipating the 4pm start-cooking-dinner-get-the-dinner-bath-bed routine on the road. 3pm is about my least favorite time…it’s not early enough to go out and do something, and it’s not late enough to get the the evening routine rolling.
    4. Texas hair? Hey, if you can get away with it, go for it. I’ve never done it (I keep my super short ’cause I’m lazy like that).
    5. Yesterday morning before sunrise. Cat vomit. I stepped in it, it was cold and clumpy and coated my right big toe.

  22. 1. Greek yogurt is a yes and no for me. You cannot get this question wrong. I’m new to it, and I’m TRYING, I swear. It’s going a lot like theology… sometimes it makes sense to me and other times I’m completely bewildered. FYI, my friend Angela just dropped off her favorite kind on my porch, like Greek yogurt evangelism. I have rad friends.

    2. I liked the 4th Twilight book. Like, a lot. I understand if this affects our friendship and I want to say I’m genuinely sorry and I’ll miss you very much. (Come back!) If it helps you forgive me, I haven’t watched the movies because I can’t take that much Pensive and Brooding.

    3. Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. The spirit is willing to lay off the coffee, but the flesh is weak. So, SO weak.

    4. Just because I CAN do gigantic hair doesn’t mean I DO DO gigantic hair. Whatever YOU do with your hair is wonderful. I try to respect Pacific Northwest culture and tame the mane. But, oh, I want to let it fly. I’m visiting Texas in March, though, and I’m bringing hair spray, friends.

    5. The last time I had to clean up something wet and not mine was 10 minutes ago. Boy child with his hose in the bathroom.

  23. Organic greek, yes. Well, any organic yogurt, really. I even make it sometimes!

    When I was a tween, I LOVED Barbara Cartland’s historical romances. Think: lotsa fainting, virginal ladies in empire dresses. Cartland holds the world record for most books written in one year. That is indicative of the length and breadth of her later works *hee*

    It is likely that I am struggling to make a snack for my 2yo, start dinner, do my homework, and prompt my 17yo to do HIS homework…all at the same time.

    Oh, I’m open. I was born in 1972 so I grew up in the 80s. THAT was an entire era of big hair. Like, big Jersey hair. Big.

    The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was as I typed this comment.

  24. 1. I’ve never tried Greek Yogurt, but I’d like to think YES, I would like it. Why not?
    2. Twilight, though I’m more embarrassed by the LIKING it than the READING it.
    3. I Homeschool, so the days kind of blur into each other. I DO know that Tuesdays (this term) are FREE of outside activities, so I like them very much, especially at 3:00 when other parents are fighting the crazy traffic at our community school, and I’m at home avoiding it.
    4. I had big Texas hair all through Junior High and High School and for my first year or so of University. And dang if it didn’t look GOOD. Unfortunately, pregnancy hormones interfered and now my hair is CURLY (who even knew that could happen?), and if I try for big, I get frizzy Monica-from-Friends-Tropical-Hair. It doesn’t look like classy Texas hair; it doesn’t even look like a cool ‘fro. It just looks…scary.
    5. I cleaned the bathrooms this afternoon – there was all manner of wet, non-mine stuff in there. I’d rather not speculate on what any of it was. I did discover some toothpaste on the toilet lid; I’m not asking questions – just opening new toothbrushes.

  25. 1 Greek yogurt. Yes or no? No. That is not a comment on greek yogurt but on me. I don’t do yogurt at all and am pretty weird about food. I eat like a 5 year old child.

    2 What’s one book you liked that you’re at least a little embarrassed you read? I honestly can’t remember. And I would say so but I don’t read that often lately (5 pages at a time at school pickup usually) so it takes me forever to get through a book.

    3 Tuesdays. 3 o’clock. Explain. Oh good Lord! I am just walking in the door from picking up from school but we need to be out again at 4 to get the kids to their activity. This isn’t every day but it is Tuesday. So they are begging for after school snacks and “unwind time” and I am screaming for homework to get done and checking on whatever is in the crockpot (because it’s Tuesday and if dinner wasn’t ready at 10am, we’re not eating).

    4 How do you feel about Texas hair? Well, I love hair you can plot geographically. I’m in MA and you can tell a Revere girl by her hair. It isn’t all over big but the bangs are still pretty high and stiff. I don’t think my hair would DO Texas (or Revere) because it is limp and lifeless but if you can do it, you should!

    5 Fill in the blank: The last time I had to clean up something wet but not mine was: Fair warning – totally disgusting answer coming at you. We are recovering from a blizzard here. Well, my precious, spoiled German Shepherd would not go out in it. So she used my front hall. More than once. I told her I hate her but I didn’t say it in German so I think we’re still cool.

    1. “I told her I hate her but I didn’t say it in German so I think we’re still cool.”

      Bahahaha! Love.

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